Saturday, October 15, 2011


Mother!  If you think you're just a housewife
And your life is dull and drear
Because you don't bring home the pay
And you don't have a career.
'cause you don't get out amongst the crowd,
To find out all that's new,
Just listen for a moment
For I have news for you.
There's not a more important work
Throughout all the land,
Because you have the power
To change the world; within your hand.
So bring up your children
In the best way that you know.
For the way they are brought up
Is the way the world will go.
They'll be leaders or followers
In twenty years or so
And their leadership will hinge
On everything they know.
So bring them up in the ways of God
So they may understand
If He's the ruler of their life
Then He will rule the land.
This is the only hope we have
For peace and joy, we know.
So mother, you must do your best.
It's the only way to go.
So mother, don't you feel left out
You're indispensable, my dear,
For the way the world will go
Depends on your career.
Harry Kruse

Being a Mother is a Blessing

 (Here is a bit of encouragement from Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies.  Mother's keep passing along the word about the blessings of being a mother.)

"How we need to continue getting out the truth and encouragement to the mothers of this nation.  I talked to a young mother yesterday with two children.  They are now off at school and I said to her, "Are you hoping to have another baby?"  "Oh no," she replied.  "I am enjoying my freedom too much now they are at school!" 

Why do mothers want freedom from their children?  Isn't this our destiny?  We have been given the incredible privilege to house within our womb an eternal soul that will live forever and then nurture and train that child to do powerful and mighty works in this life.  And we are molding them for eternity!  What could be more powerful?  Why do mothers want to do inconsequential things when they could be doing eternal things?  Why do they want to spend their time on frivolous and "lesser" things when they could be doing "greater" things?  I think it is because they are brainwashed by the liberal media and humanistic values of this society.  This was not the psyche of the women of old; it was their highest honor to bear children. 

Another mother mentioned to my daughter, "Don't you think it is time we stopped having children?  This is all my husband and I have been doing since we married."  Well, what does she want to do now?  Become barren and boring?  Go to parties?  Do her own thing?  Give up the highest calling God has given to her?! 

May God give mothers His vision instead of their being filled with a a worldly vision.  I think we should memorize and confess these powerful Scriptures each day, "Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world, If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him.  For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world.  And the world passeth away and the lust therof; but he that doeth the will of God abideth forever: ! John 2 :15 - 17."

Friday, October 14, 2011

How Fathers Transition Into Age-Integration

(Here is a great article in making the switch from age segregated worship to age integrated worship. It starts at home.--Lanita)

Posted by Jason Dohm on October 13, 2011 at NCFIC

Yessir, this is a topic I know a little about.

It was more than a decade ago that I was teetering on this precipice myself. Janet and I had decided to take our two young daughters and go participate in a family-integrated church plant. Mostly oblivious to what was ahead of us, I was extremely gung-ho, but I could tell that Janet had some unspoken reservations. I couldn't imagine what they were.

They were me. I was the unspoken reservation. When I drew it out of her, she sheepishly admitted that she was concerned that we might be moving on from a beloved church (albeit one with a flawed discipleship structure) only to have less discipleship anyway. What we had (with whatever flaws) was something, and she needed to be confident that it wasn't going to be replaced with nothing. Ouch. Double ouch. It pierced because it was legitimate. I knew me. She knew me. And we both knew that there was a lot of the love of the world still left in this young father, who had a track record to prove it.

Needless to say, it was "game on" (or maybe literally "game off", but more on that in a minute), not because I was resisting what she was saying, but because I was embracing it. It was now so clear in my mind, that with this move to a new church, I was now the difference between more discipleship for our family or less. And it wasn't going to be less.

It didn't happen all at once, but I did learn to be more and more faithful in my duty before God as a husband and father. I'm not claiming to be the ideal, but there has been real, significant progress. It has meant the world to the life of the Dohm family. I thank God that He has seen fit to bring us to this point, by making me feel the weight of my biblical calling.

Looking back, I have a few exhortations to fathers who are teetering on their own precipice:

Institute Family Worship Today

When God gives us light to walk by, we need to act - not tomorrow, today. In the category of family worship, skip the lengthy planning cycle, forget about the external helps from the Christian book store, and simply gather your wife and children to pray, read the Bible, discuss the text, and sing - today. I'm not against planning, I'm for it. I'm not against helps, I'm for them. What I'm against is putting off the most important thing in the life of your family until tomorrow, and then the next day, and then the next. This happens not because more time is needed to gather yourself for the mission, but because we all have the natural aversion to push beyond our comfort zone. It is better to be uncomfortable and a little incompetent today and to serve notice to your beloved comfort zone, than to chicken out with a transparent excuse. Don't worry. Every day, that you meet the challenge, you'll become a little more comfortable and a little more competent.

One note: If you haven't been leading family worship for your whole married life, understand that you may need to be patient with your wife. She is going to want to see that this is really a permanent change. Until she does, she might be lukewarm. Blame yourself and be patient.

Make That Practice the Immovable Rock in Your Daily Schedule

Deuteronomy 6:4-7 says, "Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one! You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength. And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up."

What part of "You shall teach them diligently to your children" do we not understand? Until we are willing to fight hard to establish the pattern, we find that any little thing can bump family worship. Family worship must become that non-negotiable, immovable rock in the schedule, around which everything else rotates. Everything. Every single thing.

"My work schedule won't accommodate it." Shift your family schedule to make it work. Eat dinner at 8:00, put the kids to bed at 10:30, and let them sleep in to a later time. That could complete the schedule shift.

"That still doesn't work." Then find another job. Radically change your family budget, move into a trailer, and worship God there. “Seriously?" Seriously. Do it because you fear God. Do it for the joy that this established pattern - done rightly - inevitably brings. At the end of your days, you won't regret it.

Having this pattern firmly established will also make Sunday morning a lot better. Your kids will already know the drill, having been expected to sit quietly and attentively during family worship through the course of the week.

Decide to Grow Up

May I say a few things that everyone knows, but no one wants to say? Too many men are just large, hairy boys. When the Dohm family took the plunge and committed to our first family-integrated church, I was still a boy in so many ways - a thirty year old boy, but still a boy. I was a boy with a steady job and some church responsibilities, but still a boy - a Christian boy, but still a boy.

I was wasting volumes of time doing boyhood things. My wife needed a man for a husband, and my girls needed a man for a daddy. I knew I had to grow up. To my shame, it was long overdue. In a day when Christian leaders want to help us not waste our sports, they should back up, take a deep breath, and tell us not to waste our lives. We all have a window of time to teach our children diligently about our great, merciful, just, and holy God. That window is shorter than we ever imagined and is closing a little every day. Sideline that lawful, unprofitable stuff, and get going on things that matter.

Final Thought

There are many other things to say, but none of them are as important as these things - at least in my estimation and experience. If you get these things in order, the other things are accomplished readily enough. Without these things, the others don't matter anyway.

I know these things look daunting from the outside, but I want to tell you that they are so exhilarating from the inside. Give it a serious go, and I'll be proven right. You get a sense very early on that you were made for this: to rally your family around God and His word, so that they might come to know a mighty Redeemer and love Him in a deeper way.

Go for it, brothers. There is nothing like it.

Jason Dohm has been married to Janet for twenty years, with a wonderful result being six children ages five to sixteen. Following a lengthy career in electronics manufacturing, Jason now serves full-time as an elder of Sovereign Redeemer Community Church in Youngsville, NC. He graduated from University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill in 1992 with a B.A. in education.

Thursday, October 13, 2011

May God walk in your home today.

 (What a beautiful picture for us to imagine...God walking in our homes. Give it a try and be amazed at what He will do.--Lanita)

Genesis 3:8 says, "They heard the sound of the Lord God walking in the garden in the cool of the day." This is the first thing we read that God did after He created the world, created man and created the first Garden home. He walked in the garden! The Garden of Eden (which means "delight") was the first home and was an example for all future homes. God wants us to make our home a delight. That is what homes are meant to be--a delightful place to live. They should be a delightful place for our children, a delightful place for our husband to return home each evening, a delightful place for everyone who comes in through our doors, and a delightful place for ourselves.

The greatest way we make our homes a delight is to experience the presence of God in our homes. And this is what God longs to do--to walk in our homes and fellowship with us. He wants to be part of everything we are doing.

You may be thinking, "Help! I can't imagine God walking in my home. There's stuff going on around here that God wouldn't be very happy about!" The amazing thing is that God does not only come to us when everything is perfect. He comes down to our lives when everything is out of order. He wants to come into your home to make everything right. That's what He was doing in the Scripture we read. Adam and Eve had disobeyed God's command and sin had entered the world. It was a tragic moment! But God did not abandon them. He still came walking in the garden to meet them--to meet them right where they were. He came to put things right. He came to bring them salvation and restoration.

At first Adam and Eve "hid themselves from the presence of the Lord God" as we often hide ourselves from God when things aren't right, when we are in rebellion, or when things seem out of control. But when they allowed God to find them, they came to great repentance and God brought salvation to them. Of course, it was not without great cost. Animals had to be killed and blood was shed for the first time (Genesis 3:21).

But now Jesus has shed His perfect and precious blood to make atonement for our sins (Ephesians 1:7; 2:13; 1 John 1:7, 9). There is nothing too hard for God to forgive and cleanse. And He comes walking in your home to meet you right where you are, even in the midst of your sin and hopelessness. As you come to the foot of the cross with a repentant spirit, He will forgive you and cover you with His righteousness. He will bring healing to your relationships. He will bring restoration to the things that are out of order in your home. That's why He comes--to bring us salvation, healing and restoration and to fill our homes with His delightful presence.

Will you let God walk in the midst of your home? Will you let Him find you right where you are and minister into your deepest need? He is walking and He wants to find you and bring you His blessing.

Leviticus 26:12 says, "I will also walk among you and be your God, and you shall be My people."

Jeremiah 31:1 says, "I will be the God of all the families of Israel, and they shall be My people."

Ezekiel 37:27 says, "My dwelling place also will be with them; and I will be their God, and they will be My people."

We go over to the New Testament and read in 2 Corinthians 6:16, "I will dwell in them and walk among them; and I will be their God, and they shall be My people."

May you enjoy God walking in your home today.


Wednesday, October 12, 2011

Sad, sad puppy dog

The past few days our son has been visiting us from Tennessee. Well, when he left today, he left behind a very sad puppy.  Lita loved having Christopher here and was not happy to see him leave.

Within a few minutes after he left Lita drug her blanket over by the door that Christopher left out of and brought her baby and ball and laid down to mourn his leaving. We could not console her for a while.